Gay Sex in Grand Rapids

OK, I said last week that I wasn't up for pursuing any kind of relationship, and I'd just stick to the exquisite pleasures that can be had in bed alone. But since then I've reconsidered... somewhat.

I'm definitely not in the market for a husband or even a boyfriend. But as I think about it, why not take a little effort at making contact with someone for something more casual? The habits of doing "the usual" with "the regulars" of my small social circle are OK, but I could stand to get out of the house and do some different things with some different people. Whether that's a new friend or a new fuck buddy or whatever... why not? And if something more develops... I'll deal with that when/if it happens.

I am definitely not a cruise-the-crowd type, so I've been browsing a few online match-making sites: Match.com, Glimpse.com, and Yahoo Personals. Thanks to their recent advertising, eHarmony popped into my head, but since I couldn't decide whether "Man seeking Woman" or "Woman seeking Man" was the best description for me, I gave up on that constipated den of paternalism pretty quickly.

Yahoo's software seems a bit crippled, but maybe that's because I'm not using Microsoft software. Glimpse seems to work pretty well, but I've had to be a little careful using that one: on my first visit I recognised a guy I spent a few years trying to duck some time ago... not a bad person, but he's completely incompatible and completely oblivious of that fact. So no picture of me there. Match.com is my favorite, since their software not only digs up people who match your search criteria, but also lets you see whose criteria you match, and shows you profiles that are mutually compatible with yours.

Of course one can easly see the time-honored personal-ad strategy of men of age x seeking men of age 18 thru x-5. But there are exceptions, and I see a fair amount of x-15 thru x+10. On the other hand, to be quite honest, for what I'm looking for, I really would prefer someone in the 18-25 range, even though I'm well beyond that myself. If I were looking for a "soulmate" or something of that sort, I'd prefer someone who remembers the same presidents and pop songs I do, but... I'm not. {smile}

But of course, I know that guys that age aren't generally aching to spend time with guys my age. And I'm OK with that. So I'll take my chances, see what happens, and... just see what develops.